Men, This Is For You
Brother—You’ve made it this far, but you know something is still missing…
Maybe you’ve done all the right things.
Checked the boxes.
Played the role.
Held it together.
Made the money.
Pushed for more.
Protected, provided, persisted.
Or maybe you’ve felt more like a ghost in your own life.
Lost.
Disoriented.
Disconnected.
Unfulfilled.
Unseen.
Unable to become the man you were born to be.
Perhaps you were taught to be soft, but never taught to be solid.
Perhaps you were taught to be hard, but never taught how to feel.
Perhaps you’ve been smack in the middle: Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
If you're like most of the men I work with, you've tried almost everything.
You've read the books.
Gone to therapy.
Tried to be a “better man”.
Maybe even went to the jungle to drink Ayahuasca.
But there’s still this ache.
This unnameable grief.
This hunger to know who the hell you really are beneath the man you were told to be.
I know that ache.
Intimately.
Because I’ve lived it.
For decades.
And because I still meet it daily–no longer as my flaw, but as my compass.
Men are not broken.
You are not broken.
Men are not toxic.
Men are under-initiated.
Painfully few of us were even taught the things that mattered most.
Almost all of us were never shown how to be good men.
Fewer still were shown the way to cross the threshold from boy to man.
No rites.
No elders.
No initiation from the Tribe.
And so we try to make sense of our lives in the dark.
We collapse into Nice Guy patterns.
Or armor up into avoidant tendencies of self-protection.
We rage.
We isolate.
We perform.
We numb.
We withdraw.
We overextend.
We forget what we’re here for.
This work isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about remembering who you already are—beneath the conditioning.
It is about becoming the man who has both heart and sword online.
The man whose mere presence alone heals the entire. fucking. room.
What I offer is not another performance or checklist.
It is not false bravado or posturing.
It is neither mimicking nor modeling the sociopaths on social media.
It is a return.
To your body.
To your instincts.
To your sovereignty.
I’m not here to be your guru.
Fuck that.
I’m not here with all the answers.
Fuck perfection.
Perfection is a lie and a trap that took me decades to escape.
What you can count on from me is my commitment to you be with you in the fire—
One who has walked into the abyss and come out carrying tools, technology, and tribe.
What happens when you finally sit with other men without hiding?
What happens when you remember how to embody your own strength without shame?
What happens when your true mission comes online?
When you stop apologizing for your edge, your purpose, your power, your presence, your masculinity?
What happens when you surround yourself with other men committed to doing the same?
This isn’t just about healing ourselves.
This is about healing the generations.
When men heal—everyone heals.
The world is starving for initiated men.
Not perfect men.
Not polished men.
But present men.
If you know it is your time,
If you feel the fire in your belly,
If you’re sick and tired of trying to do this alone—
Come.
You were never meant to walk this path without a tribe.
MIKAAL BATES
Coach | Men’s Work Facilitator | Polarity Guide | Keynote Speaker
Mikaal Bates is a leading voice in men’s work, relational healing, and cultural repair. He offers grounded, heart-centered mentorship for men, women, and couples who are ready to shed performance and embody their deepest truth. Known for his poetic fire and raw honesty, Mikaal creates sacred containers for transformation through 1:1 coaching, group work, private retreats, and stage speaking.
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